Here it is... the major upgrades to the first time family build are complete (for now lol)
the original build is here https://pcpartpicker.com/b/sDBPxr
A fried Mobo, cpu and the want to water cool gave way to same MAJOR upgrades
The cpu is up from a 6 for a 8 core with a much better rating.
The flashy but flimsy MSI mobo has been upgraded to a asus sabertooth. Very capable and powerful board. Pretty much as good as I could find with good reviews for AM3+
and for the finishing touch ( be it tho very expensive and admittedly overkill) an XSPC custom water loop. Made it myself. Radiator is a Black Ice because the xspc wasn't thin enough. Has fill and drain ports with a valve for neat draining. hoses can be screwed into the capped fittings on the outside to move the drained water far away from the computer. I wanted a loop that would be easy to fill and empty so I could modify it easy
Has two distinct lighting modes. Mostly with CCFLs and a few LEDS hooked up to 2 switches. Has UV and White modes. Water Tubes are purple and blue UV reactive but show clear in white light mode.
Not sure what else to write. Ask me anything : P More Pics on the way as I find better light and upgrade the machine.
UPDATE 2017! threw a block on the gpu and re did the tubes, now satisfied somewhat.